A Space to Just Be

Earlier this evening, my niece sent me a message asking me what the steps to marriage are at napabulalas ako ng "huwaaat? Mag-aasawa ka na?" Of course, I was kidding. It was part of her homework for school. She's only 15 and I pray that she doesn't ask me this question until she's in her 20s. ^^ Ok so back to the question, I immediately replied with "are you referring to legal requirements? Google it." (Oh my, what dependency to Google.) Then she clarified saying that the question refers to the qualities that Roy and I were looking for before we decided to get married. This caused a short discussion between me and Roy when I raised the question. We found it unnecessary to have a checklist. We agreed that getting into marriage isn't about having a list of qualities to look for. It's about preparing for it as an individual and attracting someone along the way because of the person you've become. And when it's the right time, with purp...

I think I'm blessed with fairly good brows. Not the envy-worthy full brows that just need a bit of tweezing here and there but at least mine are not unruly. They're pretty easy to manage with the help of tweezers and some know-how on the arch/ shape that works with my face shape. How important are brows anyway? They say that we don't know what we've got until it's gone so here are a few photos for you to appreciate the saying that our brows frame our face.     photo credits Got my point? The brows really contribute to our aura so ladies, make sure that yours are properly groomed. For men, malansa na kung perfect din ang arch ninyo. hihi. Going back to my adventure, hindi na naman ako mapakali kahapon. I felt that my brows needed a makeover so off I went to our neighborhood parlor. Neighborhood parlors are actually very helpful if it's your first time to deal with your brows. I believe that the parloristas have a lot of experience in grooming brows s...

Motherhood isn't just about measles, you know. But hey, here I am with my second Mommy Mondays post talking about measles. Again. It was very challenging to supposedly be "running" a household and be sick at the same time. Our household is pretty much on auto-pilot mode so I have to thank Roy and Amymy (our yaya since October 26, 2010) for that. Back to my german measles. I think we got the virus at the FEU hospital when Momsy was confined last May 30. We pertaining to me and my ate who had it days before me. A run-through of events: May 30 - June 2: Momsy's confinement ergo, pagod, puyat and stress = mababang resistensya . June 3 - June 6 in the afternoon: Life goes on June 6 late afternoon: I started feeling the chills. My chest felt heavy and I just wanted to go home. June 7 - June 10: on and off fever, joint pains I was still able to accompany my mom for her check up last June 10 then I spoke with my sister over the phone and she told me to watch out for a...

Source : http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five: 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself , not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and l...

Last night's conversation with my "business besties" had me remember this specific part of  a post entitled " Regrets of the Dying ." Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as  aresult. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level . Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. Life's too short to be settling for relationships that don't allow you to be who you really are. If you are with people whom you could engage into conversations that move you forward, nourish that environment. If not, release yourself...